Writing

How to Ask Someone Back to Yours Without a Court Summons Energy

How to ask someone back to yours. Jessica's lines from the pavement and the last-orders crush.

6 September 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Spank Your Partner So It Is Hot, Not a Slapstick Sketch

How to spank your partner: warm-up, aim, check-in. Jessica on the first smack that worked.

5 September 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Be a Submissive in Bed Without Disappearing

How to be a submissive in bed: want, word, and Jessica on handing over the evening.

5 September 2026Jessica Simpkin

What Is a Praise Kink? I Melt When Someone Sounds Proud of Me

What is a praise kink? Getting turned on when someone sounds proud of you in bed, with examples.

4 September 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Start Roleplay in Bed When You Both Feel Ridiculous

How to start roleplay in bed with one sentence. Jessica on giggling through the first scene.

4 September 2026Jessica Simpkin

Impact Play for Beginners: Hands Before Toys That Whistle

Impact play for beginners. Jessica on spanking, paddles, and knowing when to stop.

3 September 2026Jessica Simpkin

Trends and slang

What Is Shallowing? The Technique I Was Already Doing Without a Name

What shallowing is in sex, and why Jessica prefers it on some nights to anything deep.

2 September 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Share Your Kink With a Vanilla Partner Without an Ambush

How to share your kink with a vanilla partner. Jessica on translation, not conversion.

1 September 2026Jessica Simpkin

Unicorn Hunting Threesome: Why the Hunt Fails

Unicorn hunting threesome ads sound tidy until you are the third glass. Why the hunt fails, and what to do instead.

31 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

Feeld App Tips From Someone Who Has Written the Awkward Bio

Feeld app tips for photos, desires, and messages that sound like a person.

31 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

Swinging for Beginners: Clubs, Same-Room, and the Coat Check Feeling

Swinging for beginners. Jessica on a first club night and why they left early, happily.

30 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

MFM vs FFM Threesome: What Actually Changes, Besides the Poster

MFM vs FFM threesome, from someone who has been in both shapes. Jessica on dynamics, not porn categories.

30 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

Trends and slang

What Is Gooning? A 2025 Search I Had to Look Up, Then Had Opinions About

What gooning is, why people searched it, and Jessica's take on the trance-and-porn habit.

29 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Find a Third on Feeld Without Sounding Like a Couple-Shaped Trap

How to find a third on Feeld. Jessica on couple profiles that get replies.

28 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

Polyamory vs Open Relationship: I Have Tried to Live Both

Polyamory vs open relationship, explained without a flowchart. Jessica's lived version.

27 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

Open Relationship Boundaries You Will Actually Keep

Open relationship boundaries that survive contact with real people. The rules that bent, and the shorter list that held.

26 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

What to Expect From Your First Threesome (Less Porn, More Pausing)

What to expect from your first threesome. Jessica's first-time essay.

25 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Join a Couple for a Threesome and Not Feel Like a Guest Star

How to join a couple for a threesome. Jessica on being the third on purpose.

25 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

Couples Looking for a Third Etiquette So You Do Not Become a Cautionary Tale

Couples looking for a third etiquette Jessica wishes were default.

24 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

Sexting Examples You Can Copy When Your Brain Goes Blank

Sexting examples from a hello to I am thinking about you in the queue. My swipe file for blank nights.

23 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Bring Up Trying Something New in Bed

How to bring up trying something new in bed. My scripts for toys, roles, and third people.

22 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Deal With Jealousy in an Open Relationship When It Shows Up Anyway

Jealousy in an open relationship. Jessica on not being the cool one, and talking anyway.

21 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

27 Things to Say During Sex That Are Not ‘Does That Feel Nice?’

Things to say during sex that leave room for feeling. Lines that describe, praise, and steer, not quiz.

20 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Give Sexual Feedback Without Ruining the Next Time

How to give sexual feedback that they can use. The note after, not the grimace during.

19 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Say No During Sex and Still Like Yourself in the Morning

How to say no during sex: stop, redirect, or leave. On the nights I wished I had sooner.

18 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Open Your Relationship Without Using It as an Escape Hatch

How to open your relationship slowly. Jessica on the couple who rushed and the couple who did not.

17 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

What Is Ethical Non-Monogamy? A Plain Answer From Someone In It, Sometimes

What ethical non-monogamy is, and is not. Jessica on honesty as the actual work.

13 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Ask Your Partner for a Threesome Without It Sounding Like a Complaint

How to ask your partner for a threesome. Jessica’s script, and the no she respected.

9 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

Threesome Rules for Couples Who Want to Stay a Couple

Threesome rules for couples. Jessica on the agreements that saved it, and the one they forgot.

5 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Have a Threesome That People Still Speak to You After

How to have a threesome: planning, the night, the morning. Jessica on her first one.

1 August 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Find a Partner for a Threesome Without Making It Weird

How to find a threesome partner: apps, manners, and Jessica’s first search for a third.

28 July 2026Jessica Simpkin

Aftercare After Kinky Sex: The Part I Used to Skip

Aftercare after kinky sex: water, words, weight. Jessica on the crash she did not expect.

24 July 2026Jessica Simpkin

Safe Words for Couples, Including the Vanilla Ones I Still Use

Safe words for couples: traffic lights and plain English. Jessica on the night she used one.

20 July 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Try Anal Sex Without a Horror Story

How to try anal sex: lube, patience, a stop word. Jessica on the attempt that worked.

16 July 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Be Dominant in Bed When You Are Polite in Shops

How to be dominant in bed: voice, decisions, care. Jessica on switching on without becoming a cartoon.

12 July 2026Jessica Simpkin

Light Bondage for Beginners: Scarves Before Hardware

Light bondage for beginners. Jessica on tying someone with things already in the flat.

8 July 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Try Pegging When One of You Is Curious and One of You Is Nervous

How to try pegging: talk, lube, a small start. Jessica on the night the mood shifted from giggle to quiet.

5 July 2026Jessica Simpkin

Is My Kink Normal? I Have Asked This in a Bathroom Mirror

Is my kink normal? Jessica on common curiosities, shame, and the ones you do not have to act on.

1 July 2026Jessica Simpkin

BDSM for Beginners, Without the Dungeon Starter Kit

BDSM for beginners: talk, a scarf, a word. Jessica on the first scene that stayed in the bedroom.

27 June 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Have an Orgasm Alone When Partnered Sex Has Never Quite Got There

How to have an orgasm alone. Jessica on the afternoon she stopped performing for nobody.

23 June 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Feel More Confident in Bed When the Lights Still Make You Flinch

How to feel more confident in bed. Jessica on the lamp she used to switch off.

19 June 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Know What You Like in Bed When You Have Always Followed Their Lead

How to know what you like in bed. Jessica on the notebook, the solo nights, and finally having an answer.

15 June 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Masturbate for Beginners Who Were Never Given a Map

How to masturbate for beginners: time, touch, no audience. Jessica on learning late.

11 June 2026Jessica Simpkin

Is Masturbation Normal? Yes, and I Still Had to Unlearn the Shame

Is masturbation normal? Jessica's honest yes, plus when it might be something else.

7 June 2026Jessica Simpkin

Best Lube for Sex, Because Dry Is Not a Personality

Best lube for sex: water, silicone, and what Jessica keeps by the bed.

3 June 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Introduce Sex Toys to Your Partner Without a Product Launch

How to introduce sex toys to your partner. Jessica’s scripts and the night the box stayed under the bed.

30 May 2026Jessica Simpkin

11 Best Couples Sex Toys We Have Actually Used, Not Just Unboxed

Best couples sex toys, ranked by use, not packaging. Jessica on the keepers.

26 May 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Use a Vibrator With a Partner Without Anyone Feeling Replaced

How to use a vibrator with a partner. Jessica on the ego, the angle, and the night it became normal.

22 May 2026Jessica Simpkin

Best Vibrator for Beginners: What I Wish I Had Bought First

Best vibrator for beginners, without a wall of jargon. Jessica on the first one that did not scare her off.

18 May 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Spice Up Your Sex Life Without Booking a Circus

How to spice up your sex life with small, repeatable changes. The tweaks that lasted.

14 May 2026Jessica Simpkin

20 Bedroom Roleplay Ideas That Do Not Require Costumes From a Catalogue

Bedroom roleplay ideas from light to filthy. The scenes that worked and the wig that did not.

10 May 2026Jessica Simpkin

60 Dirty Truth or Dare Questions I Have Actually Answered

Dirty truth or dare questions for couples and messy nights in. My list, with a veto rule.

6 May 2026Jessica Simpkin

15 Sexy Date Night Ideas That Are Not Just Dinner Then Telly

Sexy date night ideas with a bit of plot. The dates that ended with the lights still half on.

2 May 2026Jessica Simpkin

10 Sex Games to Play in the Bedroom When You Are Bored of the Usual

Ten sex games to play in the bedroom: dice, dares, and the night I lost on purpose.

28 April 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Fix a Dead Bedroom When You Are Both Still in the House

How to fix a dead bedroom: steps, not miracles. Jessica on the winter it went quiet.

24 April 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Initiate Sex in a Long-Term Relationship When a Grope Has Stopped Working

How to initiate sex in a long-term relationship. Jessica on the tap on the hip that now means dishes.

20 April 2026Jessica Simpkin

Mismatched Sex Drives: The Negotiation I Wish We Had Sooner

Mismatched sex drives, without making one person the problem. Jessica's compromise that held.

16 April 2026Jessica Simpkin

Low Libido in a Relationship: I Have Been Both People

Low libido in a relationship, from both sides. Jessica on desire that went quiet.

12 April 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Get Out of a Sex Rut When You Could Script the Next Time

How to get out of a sex rut. Jessica on the Saturday night that was always the same.

8 April 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Reconnect With Your Partner Sexually After You Have Gone Flatmates

How to reconnect with your partner sexually. Jessica on the housemate phase and the way back.

4 April 2026Jessica Simpkin

How Often Do Married Couples Have Sex? I Stopped Comparing Ours to a Chart

How often married couples have sex, what surveys say, and why Jessica ditched the average.

31 March 2026Jessica Simpkin

First Time Sex Nerves, Even When It Is Not Your First Time

First time sex nerves: what Jessica does with the shake, the overthinking, and the silence.

27 March 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Make the First Move When You Were Taught to Wait

How to make the first move: a hand, a line, a kiss. Jessica on the times she waited and the time she did not.

23 March 2026Jessica Simpkin

First Time Sex With a New Partner, Even If You Are Not New to Sex

First time sex with a new partner: nerves, bodies, and Jessica’s first-night checklist.

19 March 2026Jessica Simpkin

Friends With Benefits Rules I Learned by Breaking Them

Friends with benefits rules that keep it kind. Jessica on the friendship she nearly lost.

15 March 2026Jessica Simpkin

What Is a Situationship? I Have Been in Three and Only Named One

What a situationship is, how to spot one, and Jessica on the almost-relationship she let drift.

11 March 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Have Casual Sex Without Pretending You Have No Feelings

How to have casual sex with rules you can live with. Jessica on the arrangements that stayed kind.

7 March 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Flirt in Person When You Are English and Therefore Reserved

How to flirt without a script from a film. Jessica on eyes, timing, and the joke that works.

4 March 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Have Sex for the First Time Without Treating It Like an Exam

How to have sex for the first time: nerves, logistics, and Jessica’s own clumsy first.

28 February 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Flirt Over Text Without a String of Winks

How to flirt over text: timing, teasing, and Jessica’s rule about not writing a novel.

24 February 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Tell Your Partner Your Fantasies Without Making It a Job Interview

How to tell your partner your fantasies: start small, watch their face, keep a way out. Jessica on the ones she shared.

20 February 2026Jessica Simpkin

10 Best Sex Positions for Beginners Who Do Not Want a Diagram Panic

Best sex positions for beginners: simple, comfortable, easy to adjust. Jessica on first-time geometry.

16 February 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Last Longer Without Pills, Sprays, or a Mental Spreadsheet

How to last longer without pills: training, positions, and the head game Jessica had to unlearn.

12 February 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Go Down on a Woman So She Does Not Have to Fake Interest

How to go down on a woman: map, pressure, and staying put. Jessica on the oral she asks for twice.

8 February 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Give a Blow Job When You Want It to Be Good, Not a Performance

How to give a blow job: hands, pace, teeth, and the tricks Jessica actually likes giving.

4 February 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Find the Clitoris Without Making a Fuss of It

How to find the clitoris, what it actually looks and feels like, and why Jessica wants this to be a calm five-minute read.

31 January 2026Jessica Simpkin

Sexting Tips for People Who Type Like They Are Ordering a Taxi

Sexting tips that sound like you. Jessica on photos, pacing, and the text she sent to the wrong chat.

27 January 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Get in the Mood for Sex When Your Brain Is Still at Work

How to get in the mood for sex: body first, inbox later. Jessica on desire that does not arrive on cue.

23 January 2026Jessica Simpkin

How Long Should Sex Last? I Stopped Timing Mine

How long sex should last, what people actually do, and why the stopwatch is a mood-killer. Jessica’s answer.

19 January 2026Jessica Simpkin

40 Dirty Talk Examples You Can Steal and Then Ruin in Your Own Accent

Dirty talk examples from soft to filthy. Jessica’s lines, plus the ones she would never say.

15 January 2026Jessica Simpkin

11 Sex Positions That Actually Help Her Orgasm

Best sex positions for female orgasm: the ones that keep clitoral contact, not the ones that look good in a still.

11 January 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Talk About Sex With Your Partner When You Both Go Awkward

How to talk about sex with your partner: timing, tone, and Jessica’s kitchen-table method.

7 January 2026Jessica Simpkin

How to Ask for What You Want in Bed Without a Presentation

How to ask for what you want in bed: one sentence, good timing, no spreadsheet. Jessica’s scripts.

30 December 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Give Good Oral Sex, According to a Woman Who Will Tell You

How to give good oral sex: pace, attention, and the mistakes Jessica still sees. For giving and receiving.

26 December 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Talk Dirty When You Sound Like Yourself, Not a Subtitle Track

How to talk dirty in a voice that is actually yours. Jessica on the sentence that changed her sex.

22 December 2025Jessica Simpkin

When to Kiss on a First Date, and When I Should Have Waited

When to kiss on a first date. Jessica on doorsteps, last trains, and reading the room.

18 December 2025Jessica Simpkin

11 Signs They Want to Sleep With You, and 4 That Are Just Being Nice

Signs they want to sleep with you, minus the TikTok nonsense. Jessica on reading adults.

14 December 2025Jessica Simpkin

10 Sex Positions for Small Penis That Feel Generous, Not Consolation

Sex positions for small penis that use angle, grinding, and hands. Jessica on size as a detail, not a verdict.

10 December 2025Jessica Simpkin

9 Sex Positions for Deep Penetration (And When to Skip Them)

Sex positions for deep penetration, plus the nights Jessica wanted less depth and more control.

6 December 2025Jessica Simpkin

Sex on the First Date: When I Have, When I Have Not, What Changed

Sex on the first date. Logistics, judgement, and Jessica's actual nights, not a moral.

2 December 2025Jessica Simpkin

14 Red Flags in Dating I Used to Call Chemistry

Red flags in dating, including the ones Jessica excused because the sex was good.

28 November 2025Jessica Simpkin

One Night Stand Etiquette for People Who Were Raised With Manners

One night stand etiquette: leaving, staying, water, and Jessica's worst goodbye.

24 November 2025Jessica Simpkin

Missionary Position Tips That Stop It Feeling Like Homework

Missionary position tips: angles, hands, and why Jessica still asks for it when she wants to come.

20 November 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Write a Dating Profile That Gets Dates, Not Just Likes

How to write a dating profile that gets dates, not just likes. Look like yourself after work, and write one true thing they can answer.

16 November 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Turn a Hookup Into a Relationship Without a Campaign

How to turn a hookup into a relationship: timing, honesty, and Jessica’s almost.

12 November 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Touch a Woman in Bed So It Does Not Feel Like a Checklist

How to touch a woman: start elsewhere, stay curious, and skip the poke. Jessica’s tour of what she likes.

8 November 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Text After a Hookup Without Writing a Constitution

How to text after a hookup. Jessica's timing, length, and the message she wishes she had sent.

5 November 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Start Dating After a Long Relationship Without Comparing Everyone to Them

How to start dating after a long relationship. Jessica on the first app reopen and the first kiss that felt new.

1 November 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Make Her Finish When She Is Close and Then Drifts

How to make her finish: stay still, keep the rhythm, stop asking if she is close. Jessica on the last thirty seconds.

28 October 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Make a Woman Squirt, Without Making It the Whole Evening

How to make a woman squirt: what it is, what it is not, and Jessica’s take on the nights it happened.

24 October 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Kiss for the First Time When Your Brain Has Left the Building

How to kiss for the first time: lean in, miss, laugh. Jessica on first kisses that were not cinematic.

20 October 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Kiss Better, Including the Ones I Still Think About

How to kiss better: pace, lips, and the difference between a peck and a promise. Jessica on kissing that leads somewhere.

16 October 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Have Multiple Orgasms Without Turning Into a Project

How to have multiple orgasms: rest, stimulation, and why Jessica's second one is rarely a copy of the first.

12 October 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Have More Intense Orgasms When Yours Feel a Bit Polite

How to have more intense orgasms: build, breathe, and stop rushing the ending. Jessica on turning the volume up.

8 October 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Have Better Sex When You Already Think You Know What You Are Doing

How to have better sex: less choreography, more feedback, and the small habits Jessica wishes she had started sooner.

4 October 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Have a Prostate Orgasm, Even If You Feel Silly at First

How to have a prostate orgasm: go slow, use lube, and ignore the internet’s urgency. Jessica on guiding someone through it.

30 September 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Give a Woman an Orgasm Without Turning It Into a Mission

How to give a woman an orgasm: clitoris first, less performance, more paying attention. Jessica on what actually works.

26 September 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Edge During Sex When You Want the Build, Not the Brag

How to edge during sex: stop, start, and stay kind. Jessica on the nights edging made everything louder.

22 September 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Date Casually Without Catching Feelings on a Schedule

How to date casually on purpose. Jessica on calendars, other people, and telling the truth.

18 September 2025Jessica Simpkin

How to Ask Someone Out Without a Three-Week Internal Meeting

How to ask someone out: one clear question. Jessica on the times she delayed and the time she did not.

14 September 2025Jessica Simpkin

Cowgirl Sex Position Tips, From the Person on Top

Cowgirl sex position tips for comfort, orgasm, and not making it a workout. Jessica on what she does up there.

10 September 2025Jessica Simpkin